When I was twelve, someone very close to me explained how worth works. She put it quite frankly. If you take a $100 bill and crumble it up, does the value change? What if you rip the corner off, is it worth less? You could even throw it on the ground and step on it. The value doesn’t change. That’s exactly how a person’s worth works too.
So why is this concept so hard for us to understand?
I’ve been hearing this analogy for years now, practicing self worth and when I finally got to the point of acceptance, my entire life changed. I realized that my confidence stems from knowing my worth.
When you start seeing your worth,
you have a hard time staying around people who don’t.
if you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to the people around you, you have already forgotten your value.
and your value doesn’t change.
I think it starts when we’re kids honestly. You go through life very nonchalant not thinking about how the world sees you while little words intertwine throughout your story. Words like, you are not good enough. We hear them everywhere: television, school, social media, etc. That’s when you have to replace those words with affirmation and that’s why it’s so important to begin to instill self worth as young as possible. When I was in middle school and high school, I tried so hard to get people to like me. I conformed to fit the mold of whoever I was trying to please. I look back and wish that I could grab my younger self by the shoulders and shake her! There was no need for me to change myself for other people. My mom has always said, “If someone doesn’t like you for the authenic you, then move along because they are not worth it.” I get it now. I try not to beat myself up about it too much because I can’t change the past. What I can do is be better now and share my experiences in hopes that one person reads this and it clicks for them. So I’ll end with this: